Soul Mate

Best friends have a way of speaking to your heart. Even when miles and miles apart–a whole country even–sometimes a best girlfriend sees your soul even better than your husband does. Why is that? Maybe it’s because she can only hear my voice–so she has to listen. Or she can only read my words–so she has to understand. Maybe it’s a “girl thing”. I’m sure it has something to do with living and growing together for four years.

How can I live with my soul mate, my best friend, and still feel so alone? How can I have dozens of friends here I could run to in an instant, and still feel so unknown?

There’s just something about that best girl friend–my female soul mate, if you will. That give and take; the perfect mixture of laughter and tears; the “I’ll lean on you when I have no strength, as long as you allow me to do the same for you sometime soon”.

I’ve had only a few in my lifetime, and there are two that I miss deeply right now. Losing one of these girlfriends is painful; I’ve been going through that recently as well. It’s not a feeling I’d ever like to experience again. But these two women–these two friends who can look into my soul and speak to my heart in ways that no one else can … I hope they know what they mean to me. I hope they know how much I need them, even if we’re separated by miles, states, and even a whole country.

When I feel so alone and unknown …

When I feel like I don’t even understand myself …

When I feel lost and so broken …

It’s these best girl friends that I need.

Written Sunday morning, 4/5/09

About kristinlindeen

I am Kristin. I am Erik's wife. I am Joshua, Rebecca, and Andrew's mom. I am known nationally as the "QBQ! Daughter" and keynote on Personal Accountability and the QBQ. I am certified in Myers Briggs and am passionate about helping people understand themselves and others better. I am John and Karen's daughter. I am sister to many, mentor to some, friend to others. Most defining, I am Christ's daughter, adopted by God--rescued and saved by grace. And almost every single day, I need to be reminded of that truth. Come say "hi" at and of course, browse the blog! I'd love to hear from you, so comment away!
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2 Responses to Soul Mate

  1. Grandma Hoyt says:

    kristen….You are so right…I, too had a soul mate friend…..she died over 20 years ago, but there has never been another to fill that need. I probably shouldn’t, but I measure any new friend with what I once had….and nothing compares. You are blessed to such friends.

  2. melody says:

    Best girlfriends are irreplaceable and yes, I miss mine deeply as well. It’s that crazy longing to be ACTUALLY known and when you find someone who has walked beside you a bond is formed that you cannot recreate with anyone else because the same circumstances will never happen again in entirety. Love you, RAisIN!

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