Week 26: Finally My Turn

I was cleaning out old documents when I found this. Written March 3, 2008–it’s so weird to hear my voice from the past. These emotions seem so recent, and yet, so long ago. It’s weird how things change so quickly … But it’s good to be reminded from where I’ve come. From where God has brought me. During a week where I was continually amazed at the experiences of pregnant, it was so good to remember how badly I wished for this. Why would anyone complain about being pregnant?? I’m so blessed to get to experience this miracle. Former me would be so happy ….

I have a headache. My legs hurt. I feel like I need to stretch but don’t have the energy to do so. I hate that I know that the energy would come if I would just get up and move around. But that takes effort. I feel like effort is not something I can put forth right now. Because I have a headache.

I want to be done with school. I want to not feel guilty about not being heavily involved in a ministry. I feel like I’m tired and slightly burned out, which is dumb because I just got back from vacation.

I feel that it’s unfair that all these women in my life can all have babies and I can’t. I feel that it has been long enough—how much longer until it’s my turn? Do I get a turn? Maybe I won’t!?

That feeling scares me. I feel like it’s not going to happen. That I’m not going to be blessed with my own baby.

I want to experience pregnancy. I want to feel my baby kick inside of me. I want to have horrible heartburn, I want to puke every morning, I want to have swollen feet and I want to have to buy a fake cheap wedding band at Wal-Mart because my fingers are too big to wear my real one.

I want to have beautiful hair and strong nails. I want my pants to be tight. I want to be able to sleep only on one side and have to hug a body pillow just to be comfortable. I want to fight with Erik over names.

I want to avoid coffee and deli meats for 9 whole months, just because they ­­­might harm my baby. I want to feel fat. I want to waddle. I want to wonder if I’ll ever see my toes again. I want to have to ask for help to tie my shoes. I want to not have to clean the litter box. I want people telling me that I’m the cutest pregnant woman they’ve ever seen. I want to not be able to travel.

I want to be pregnant. And it’s my turn.

GOD!! I just keep plodding along, but I’m tired Lord. I’m tired. I want to be a mom. Is that too much to ask? For me? For Jenni? For Erin? For Heather? Why not us, God? Why are we the statistics? What did we do to deserve the loss of our CHILDREN?! Not matter how big, or how miniscule, those are our babies. And it hurts to lose them. It’s devastating.

So when is it our turn God? When do we get to hold our babies in our arms? To see their little eyes looking up at us with such love and trust?

When do we get to watch our sons learn to play baseball, and our daughters dress cabbage patch dolls?

When is it our turn to clean up spaghetti stains and organize millions of toys?

When do we get the privilege of getting no sleep and making multiple runs to Target for diapers and formula?

When, God, is it my turn to feel a baby kicking, to deal with hiccups at 2am, to feel the pain of Braxton Hicks?

When God? How much longer? Where are You in this???? You could snap Your fingers, and I could be pregnant. Is this not what You have for me? When in the world IS Your timing? Soon….please God soon.

I feel so obligated to write something about how I know it’s Your timing, I know You are here, I know this is for my own good…

but I just sometimes want to ask the questions. I want them hanging out there, unanswered, because it feels good to let them hang. Good in an extremely empty, desperate way. Good in a strangely depressing way.

After so long, it feels good to question—to honestly vent, question and not feel obligated to remind myself and others reading that I know His words on waiting, growing, challenging, disciplining. Sometimes, I just don’t care. I want to be sad. I want to play the victim; I want to whine.

When is it my turn??

Dear Former Me–it’s my turn!!!!! Bubba’s strong and healthy and coming very very soon! The Lord is good–no matter how I’m feeling.

About kristinlindeen

I am Kristin. I am Erik's wife. I am Joshua, Rebecca, and Andrew's mom. I am known nationally as the "QBQ! Daughter" and keynote on Personal Accountability and the QBQ. I am certified in Myers Briggs and am passionate about helping people understand themselves and others better. I am John and Karen's daughter. I am sister to many, mentor to some, friend to others. Most defining, I am Christ's daughter, adopted by God--rescued and saved by grace. And almost every single day, I need to be reminded of that truth. Come say "hi" at www.QBQ.com and of course, browse the blog! I'd love to hear from you, so comment away!
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2 Responses to Week 26: Finally My Turn

  1. So fun to see in others how, when it comes to children, being a "have not" colors everything once you've become a "have." I remember being so thankful for nausea, heartburn, swollen feet, painful kicks, and getting up to tinkle 5 times a night. I'm so happy for you two! And this post was so beautiful to read! Love ~ Tami

  2. Okay. I read this with tears rolling down my face. Great post. Great reminder that in one moment we can feel so lost- so desperate for God to SEE us… and then, the seasons change… and He DOES. Thankfully, He does… Hang on to this… No matter what you and Erik face… That He answers your cries for Help! Love you, and LOVED reading this! 🙂

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