Week 27: Did I Just Say That?!

It was during Week 27 that I first had this thought, “I don’t want to be pregnant anymore.”

GASP! What?? Did I just have that thought? How DARE I?

I even voiced this thought to Erik one night. And I even guiltily told my closest friends … “This is the first week I’ve felt ‘inconvenienced’.” And I feel such a burden of guilt for even thinking, let alone saying that.

When I was in the midst of struggling to conceive, the most hurtful, frustrating thing, of many hurtful frustrating things, was when a beautifully pregnant woman would openly complain about her growing body, whine about the pregnancy … I remember trying to understand, trying to sympathize (knowing I could never truly understand) but it was so difficult for me, since I so badly wished I could swap places. I remember declaring to Erik that I would never wish for my pregnancy to be over, that I would never complain about whatever aches and pains would come.

So now that I’m here, and my understanding is more clear, I feel such guilt when I whine even a little bit.

It’s incredible to me that A) Something I wanted for so long really is here, and is truly so amazing. B) My body can do this miraculous thing and C) That even in pregnancy, I find something to feel guilty about.

So let’s talk about the truth:

The truth is, I am so grateful to be pregnant. Rarely a day goes by where I don’t shake my head in wonder, and thank Jesus for this gift that I do not deserve!

The truth is, Infertility was so hard–obviously. And I don’t fault myself for struggling when pregnant women complained; it’s where I was at, and it was real.

The truth is, Pregnancy can be hard. For me, not much of it has been. But there are moments, now hitting third trimester and really feeling the burden of my growing body, that I just want to be done.

However, the real truth is, I love being pregnant. I wouldn’t trade it for the world–aches, pains, heartburn, loss of bladder control, fatigue and all–this is the greatest experience of my life!

So even if I voice a little complaint, or heave a sigh and wish for May, it’s okay. God who blessed me with this little boy understands–it’s not for lack of gratitude. It’s just real life … and there’s no need to feel guilt. ๐Ÿ™‚

About kristinlindeen

I am Kristin. I am Erik's wife. I am Joshua, Rebecca, and Andrew's mom. I am known nationally as the "QBQ! Daughter" and keynote on Personal Accountability and the QBQ. I am certified in Myers Briggs and am passionate about helping people understand themselves and others better. I am John and Karen's daughter. I am sister to many, mentor to some, friend to others. Most defining, I am Christ's daughter, adopted by God--rescued and saved by grace. And almost every single day, I need to be reminded of that truth. Come say "hi" at www.QBQ.com and of course, browse the blog! I'd love to hear from you, so comment away!
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2 Responses to Week 27: Did I Just Say That?!

  1. Part of the point of pregnancy being so uncomfortable is it makes it that much easier to go through the real discomfort with the prize at the end. Because truly, its not just the pregnancy wished for – its the beautiful baby boy that comes at the end. Love you!

  2. you are TOO funny Kristin… you make me laugh. I'm so glad you are pregnant… and I'm so glad you are SO happy to be pregnant… and I'm so happy you are finally feeling the aches and pains :)… just wait until you are 39 1/2 weeks… then you WILL be ready to be done ๐Ÿ˜‰ Love you!

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