Week 30: Didn’t, Wasn’t … Did, Am.

For so many months, I didn’t.

For so long, I wasn’t.

Many months, others did.

Many times, others were.

And I didn’t, and wasn’t.

And yet, here I sit–I did, and I am.

I’m the lady breathing heavily while wandering around the grocery store. I’m the one seeing stars after bending over to pick something up. I’m the one hitting my belly on the corner counter because, even after so many weeks, I’m still not used to it being there.

There are still women out there who, month after month, don’t. Who time after time, aren’t.

For 881 days, I didn’t and wasn’t. Compared to some womens’ waiting, that’s not that long. I remember when I wasn’t. I used to say that I actually worried about the day where I was the waddling one in the mall who caused pain in some flat stomached woman’s life. And it pains me that my blessing of a bulging belly has and will continue to cause others stomachs to twist and jaws to clench. I don’t judge them. I would never tell them to be happy for me. I know how it feels.

I wish I could wear a sign. The sign would say, “This did not come easily.” “I do not take this miracle for granted.” “I understand and shed tears over your pain.” “I know the infertility journey.”

Because of God’s goodness, I did and I am. And I pray I never ever forget how it felt when I didn’t, and wasn’t.

About kristinlindeen

I am Kristin. I am Erik's wife. I am Joshua, Rebecca, and Andrew's mom. I am known nationally as the "QBQ! Daughter" and keynote on Personal Accountability and the QBQ. I am certified in Myers Briggs and am passionate about helping people understand themselves and others better. I am John and Karen's daughter. I am sister to many, mentor to some, friend to others. Most defining, I am Christ's daughter, adopted by God--rescued and saved by grace. And almost every single day, I need to be reminded of that truth. Come say "hi" at www.QBQ.com and of course, browse the blog! I'd love to hear from you, so comment away!
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4 Responses to Week 30: Didn’t, Wasn’t … Did, Am.

  1. eriklindeen says:

    yeah- I wish everyone could know it wasn't an easy journey to get here.

  2. Just keep on being open and empathetic and I believe the Lord will use you to touch many lives and spread the HOPE! Love you, and so excited to see the little ticker moving forward everyday at the top of your blog!

  3. Kristin says:

    Thanks … if she'd like to connect, I can be reached at kristin.lindeen@gmail.com.

  4. breitgirl1 says:

    Awesome blog…shared this with a friend of mine who is dealing with infertility… I just love everything you said. Powerful. Thank you!

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