Me? Insecure? Never! … Well, maybe … a smidge …

I was invited to do one last bible study with Discovery Church women before our big move to Madison, Wisconsin. I waffled on the decision for a while, knowing that this summer would be crazy and also knowing that I would love the time with these ladies. Then I saw the book title they’d chosen: So Long Insecurity by Beth Moore. And I thought, “Nah, I don’t need to read that–I’m not insecure!”

Insert laughter here.

Because only a few pages into the book, I realized wow–I am in these pages, in these examples. Insecurity is not just what I tend to picture–a mousy wall flower woman who can’t speak her mind and spends 19 hours choosing an outfit just to change it later. No, insecurity can and does look very different from that.

I could quote a dozen lines from this book, and you’d probably think, “Oh my–that’s me! She’s talking about me!” even if you are like I was and utterly convinced of your security. No matter what, we’ve all got something that triggers us. Some broken relationship, some failed promise, some shortcoming or fear that paralyzes us and causes us to forget who we are in Christ. For me, I’m realizing a lot of different things about myself. So anyway, I’ll just quote a few:

I constantly feel unqualified, inadequate, and out of my league. I realized this morning that I not only lack security, I also lack faith. I don’t just doubt myself, I also doubt God about myself. 

Some of us never seek healing from God for our insecurities because we feel like we don’t fit the profile. We think insecurity only looks one way–mousy, maybe even inept–and that’s not exactly who we see in the mirror … Insecurity’s best cover is perfectionism. That’s where it becomes an art form.

The fact that she [an insecure woman] can be a complicated mix of confidence and self-consciousness is the very reason it took me so long to identify it in myself and admit it. 

Those above quotes are all from the first couple chapters of the book. Those are the quotes, just a sampling, that drew me in and helped me realize this book was good for me. This next quote I read just yesterday, and with my life the way it is lately, boy did I need to read it. This section is in the form of a prayer …

Lord, help me to learn how to hang on tight to You when my life is rocked by dramatic change. Empower me to trust You and not to panic or fight for control. Help me to stop confusing a change in my circumstances with a change in my security status. You are my security, O God. You are the one sure thing. When everything around me shakes, You are unshakeable. Nothing has the propensity to reveal false gods in me like a sudden change in my circumstances. Help me to see them and surrender them instantaneously. Use change to provoke what needs changing in me, Lord, and to increase my appreciation of the only One who is the same yesterday, today, and forever.

I need to print this up and plaster it all over my walls, mirrors, car and laptop. What is it about change that gets me all jittery and insecure?? My God is in control, my God is orchestrating this change, and He is in it all, blessings, challenges, surprises, twists and turns. He is my Rock, my Guide and my Salvation. Whom–and what–shall I fear?

I’ll close with this quote:

No, you are no the only one to blame [for your insecurity], but girlfriend, you are the only one you can change. God is willing, God is able. Let Him get to that terrified part of you that devalues the rest of you.

I highly recommend that you–yes you–read this book. πŸ™‚ Even if you think you’re totally and completely secure, I promise you–you’re not.

About kristinlindeen

I am Kristin. I am Erik's wife. I am Joshua, Rebecca, and Andrew's mom. I am known nationally as the "QBQ! Daughter" and keynote on Personal Accountability and the QBQ. I am certified in Myers Briggs and am passionate about helping people understand themselves and others better. I am John and Karen's daughter. I am sister to many, mentor to some, friend to others. Most defining, I am Christ's daughter, adopted by God--rescued and saved by grace. And almost every single day, I need to be reminded of that truth. Come say "hi" at and of course, browse the blog! I'd love to hear from you, so comment away!
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1 Response to Me? Insecure? Never! … Well, maybe … a smidge …

  1. ~Stephanie says:

    Hi there. I found your blog on a search using Facebook's Networked Blogs. I started following because you tagged it "infertility" and "Christianity"I just wanted to jump in and say that I have been on the fence about this book, but you may have just made up my mind! I am going to see Beth Moore in less than 2 weeks, and I am so excited πŸ™‚

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